A few weeks ago I had gone out on a first date with this guy I had met. I was feeling both a mixture of excitement and nervousness...I wanted everything to turn out perfectly. I spent hours trying to find the perfect outfit to the point where I convinced myself that in a closet full of clothes I had nothing to wear. So to the mall I headed with my best friend on a search to find an outfit that would make him fall in love at first sight with me almost in comparison to a Cinderella-like event where she walked into the ball and caused an immediate reaction in Prince Charming. All this trouble to have the perfect outfit, spotless makeup, and every hair in place...and to be honest I doubt it would have made a difference if I went through all that trouble or not. Do guys even notice when we make a big deal?!
Yes I know...what am I thinking?! I am not living in a fairy tale but we all do it. But why? Why not just relax a bit and not put so much pressure on it. It's because we've reached this age now where we're surrounded by happy couples and marriage. Much like what the King was doing to his son to hurry a proposal resulting in the inital throwing of the ball, we are feeling the slight urge to finally settle down with "the one". It's not like it was in our early 20's where everyone really was just dating for fun.The expectations are higher the older we get...we want to settle down. But why can't we still just date for fun. Dating doesn't have to be so serious.
This is something I've talked about here over and over again I feel like a broken record who just keeps repeating myself...but it is still something I struggle with. Let's face it...I'm just not a good casual dater anymore. I expect too much...in hopes that every guy I go out with is possibly my Prince Charming. I'm a worrier and I over analyze everything but what girl doesn't after a date sit and wonder if he is going to call?! And then if he doesn't...we sit with our girlfriends drinking wine while ripping apart the situation, dissecting each moment and coming up with excuses why...when really it could simply be that maybe "he just wasn't that into you*"!
The other day I told a friend of mine, "ahhh I'm done. This whole dating game is exhausting. I just want to meet someone and be at the comfortable in love stage." Her response to me was, "I hear ya' but then the grass is always much greener on the other side. Remember back when we both were in relationships and longed for that new exciting feeling of dating. The butterflies. The initial stages. Eventually we will find someone and we will someday enter into a serious relationship that will hopefully last forever. But for now lets just enjoy meeting new people, the early days of dating and the butterflies."
*Wasn't that a movie...shouldn't that have been sufficient enough in proving a point to us?!