I surely can talk the talk but when it comes down to walking the walk...I end up failing miserably. I talk a lot of game about how I intend on "dating just for fun", ya' know thriving in my single mom status, not taking things too seriously blah blah blah. Well I try, I really do, but I can't help myself. I can't seem to break away from putting pressure on it and setting high expectations which ultimately lead to disappointment. I lack carryover and am unable to follow through.
What can I say?! I'm just a hopeless romantic looking for love. I'm almost 29 years old and a single mom. I cannot take away the thought process of dating with the idea of that man possibly being the one. I don't think I know how to date casually without forming serious attachment.
Maybe when I least expect it my fun dates...will someday turn into more than just fun.
Saturday, February 09, 2013
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I think thats natural though. As women we long to have someone to love. And of course when you have a kid you long for a family.... That's the reason why women cling to unhealthy relationships too long when children are involved, or why women marry a person who they know arent the one. My suggestion is to date as many men as possible so you can not torture yourself by sitting by the phone. Make dating your extracurricular activity (along with other ones obvi) and just go out and do it, as many nights (days?) a week you can w/o taking away time from your precious bundle.
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I think Josie nailed it. Having a child takes dating to a whole new level and its hard not to take it from 0 to family in two seconds. I think the goal is not to try and change our thoughts, but recognize that they are just thoughts, that longing for love and a family is ok to think about and want, but our actions have to move more slowly.
ReplyDeleteDating as a single mom is definitely interesting isn't it?
I am in the middle of a divorce and am "almost but maybe not quite ready" to try to date. Dating for fun? how does one exactly do that? I am one of those romantic girls too. I will have to keep up with you - fellow single mother.
ReplyDeleteI don't do it... I really never "dated"... over the course of my single motherhood, I have met a few men that I ended up in relationships with, but we never "dated". I just didn't find that aspect fun... what I found fun was hanging out with someone whose company I enjoyed and in each instance, it turned into more. I don't know if I am incapable of dating without forming an attachment or I'm simply so picky that I'm only open to spending time with guys with whom I click, which is why they are so few and far between. I tend toward the latter, which has made it a very slow, and at times, lonely, process!
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